Once in a while, I am surprised to learn that my kids actually listen. More than that, to find that they take my words to heart until those lessons become part of them.
For quite a while, I was working with my daughter, teaching her to make her own peanut butter & jelly sandwich. The other day my son was teaching her, and after he went over the steps while making his own sandwich, I heard him say “Okay, now you do it.”
Bliss Girl, in her easily-frustrated 5-year-old voice: “No! I can’t do it!”
Bliss Boy, in a gentle, calm, Big Brother voice: “Never say ‘can’t’ because you CAN. You have to at least try.”
My mama heart swelled a million sizes in that moment.
I say something similar often in this house. I try to eliminate the word “can’t” from my children’s vocabulary. I know they CAN. They can do anything. I believe in them, but more than that, I want them to believe in themselves.
Five minutes later, I hear the happy footsteps of little feet bounding up the stairs, followed by an appearance by my daughter. With a big, proud smile on her face and a completed peanut butter & jelly sandwich in her hand, she announced “Look, mom! I made this all by myself!”
Sometimes, in the mess of work, family, friends, activities, cleaning, paying the bills, and general messy motherhood, you get glimmers of hope that you are doing something right when you least expect it. Those moments deserve to be acknowledged and savored; they help us work through the messy moments and remember what all of our hard work is for in the end.
Today, she’s making her own PB & J sandwiches. Tomorrow, I’m fairly sure she’ll conquer the world, and every little thing she learns to do for herself will help her along the way.
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