Happy New Year! Yes, it’s January 9th, but in overcommitted-mom-time being fashionably, frantically always late, I think I am still allowed to use that greeting through the 15th, so…look at that, I am right on time! I don’t have a lot of spare time so I’m condensing my mama blogging to once a week (hopefully each Monday, but I’ll be honest: once or twice a month is about reasonable).
As we kick off this new year, I am being a complete hypocrite (read: human) and am actually doing the lame New Year thang that I usually avoid because it’s so, well, expected. You know: trying to remember to work out (I still count baking as a workout, don’t get me wrong), trying to eat healthier ( smoothies! more on that later), and most importantly for me this year, doing an emotional detox of the negative vampires who suck the life out of mine. Hat tip to my Twitter pals who introduced me to the term: energy vampires.
This detox is long overdue. I’ve been battling it for a couple of years now. I’ve talked about it, but now in 2012 I am being brutal about kicking out the people – both online and in my everyday life – who suck the potential goodness out of my day.
It’s the most difficult thing for me to do, which is probably why it has taken so long for me to get here. I’m an idealist: I want to believe people have the best intentions. I want to excuse the fact that this mom may be going through some sort of personal breakdown and that is why she attempts to continually cut me down & any sign of happiness anyone else has with her sharp, snarky words. I want to believe a colleague doesn’t want to just use me and all of my hard work for several years to her own, selfish benefit. I want to be able to overlook a fellow mom’s constant back-handed remarks about the state of my house.
But 2012 looks to be an even busier year, and I do not have the time nor emotional energy to waste on people who are hell bent on glorifying their own negativity and trying to bring others down with them. I can make myself feel bad enough on my own, thank you very much. You don’t have time for this kind of external negativity either, busy reader; shall we embark on this emotional detox together?
In the online world, it’s a little easier to block out the energy vampires: you can hide folks on Facebook, you can unfollow people on Twitter, you can stop reading their blogs.
However, in real life, it’s more difficult to detox from negative people. There’s the direct approach (I do not enjoy confrontation, so…), there’s simply ignoring them, there’s the slow fade out. I prefer the slow fade out, and seems to work in most cases.
Do you have energy vampires to detox from your life? How do you deal with them?